I love you and want you to be happy. I recognize that having the feeling ofyour life , not in your own control, being" yanked from underneath" must be frustrating. But that not in my control is a comfortable illusion.

" it wasn't my fault " explanation of most issues, whether they relate to us, or to outside events allows you to ignore your role and abdicate all responsibility, . The issues you raised in your letter ;are my monthly e mails.. (my statement regarding Mwas though you think otherwise she gets things in exchange for ' accomplishing the tasks that I have requested - no more no less)„ my changing my mind about cooking, my irritability, my telling you to leave. My annoyance at "" the first sign of imperfection. " My boring conversations about errands. Im cold and distant., IT appears form your letter that my "responses" ,are really at the heart of the problem. -

you suggested going back to 0 so that you could spend time as you please. I asked what that meant. Did it mean I have to lose 15 pounds and find a circle of silver hair for my head, and you have to gain 15, and find a triangle of dark? Does it mean , Igo back to having more, and you less. Does it mean you give back the dog, blackberry and things, and move into a models apt ?

needing my own space, you take as an insult. As opposed to a need

I have tried to convey the need for you to contribute to our partnership. I have asked , as your last shrink asked for you to construct a role, and then live up to it. Though you letter suggests it, I have never questioned your loyalty , protective Ball-E. instinct . but or ball-e, faithfulness really does to me. have You to have be concerned never questioned about her the life same being qualities yanked. in Ball=e isn't asked to do more than roll over. And even she doesn't expect to be given her treats when she refuses.

I read you surge email, I thought it was the ovulation day, you are right .